Good Parents

Again today I'm pretty excited to write about a new post. Just now I watched The Great Australian Spelling Bee 2015 at 702. I don't know whether I am too emotional or I just already grown up as a woman. Yah it sounds ridiculous but it happened to me when I watched this TV series. This series is much similar like News Straits Times Spell It Right or we used called it as SIR. I had accompanied my teacher when I was in primary school to bring the other students for that competition. It was intense I swear. 

You know that kids need support in whatever they do even it seems so small to you like learning on how to eat by using spoon and fork. Being a winner is not necessary for one to collect and get a new experience in life. As what I've been observed in Malaysia is most of parents wanted their kids to meet their expectations. "you need to get straight A's", "you need to catch the gold" or whatever phrase that much similar like these. I'd prefer to say "you can do it", "do your best", "believe in yourself" instead of giving those scary words to them. Of course we need those words that probably boost our spirit to win but we need it in perfect amount. An exorbitant of it might kill someone in meeting your expectations. Imagine yourself as a parent, and remember ourselves during our childhood. When you failed something then your parents said "you should be in the first place" instead of saying "I am proud of you. You can do it better if you work a little bit harder". We wondering why our parents don't even try to comfort and understand us. Therefore, if you think your parents won't able to understand you during your time, then treat your kids the better way your parents did. 

During this TV series, the parents keep on saying that they were very proud of their children even though they were failed in the first round. And when the the words were getting harder and the kid were failed, the parent even said "that word was hard right?" while hugging them and said "It's okay, you already a winner". Perhaps, Asian parents will be more like this. Oh Plisssss I hope that I would be a good parent. 

Being a parent is a challenging task especially in this modern and competitive world. It is a must for every parent to want the best for their children. We wanted they to excel in their academic, get the first place in sports or in other words we want them to be the best in whatever they do regardless in academic, sports, manners and Islamic things. But we need remember that an artist might don't really need Additional Mathematics and a businessman don't really need language to survive. We all need basic academic in our life but to extend it, only those who able will survive and excel. 

I do agree with the other country educational system where the kids will have an opportunity to explore everything they wanted to until certain grades and then they will be given options to choose their interest whether it is maths, science, literature or arts. One can do well in the field that they'd love to and expert in it. It is necessary to have a passion in whatever you do because that passion will lead you no matter how many failures that you will face. However, we need skills and abilities to do that. Frankly talk that I am a person who have passion in science and discovering everything about the aerospace but I am not good in Physics and Maths. Maybe one day there will be an act like Aerospace Act 2020? HAHAHAHA. or is it exists already? 

I still remember the day when I took train to go to Kuala Lumpur to watch orchestra, when I were busy looking for the sit, there was one woman asking her son to move and sat beside her to give my friend and I sits. Her son's expression was similar to when your mom ask you to wake up early in the morning. I smiled and said thank you. Moreover, when we arrived KL Sentral and wanted to get off from the train, that woman told her son again to let us get out first and said to her son "ladies first". I considered all of these as a good manner that you should teach your kids. Especially to boys, we need to teach them how to be respect a girl and vice versa. 

I just love how some western people teach their children because they will let their children to explore and do something that will bring benefits. No, I am not saying Asian people teach their kids in a bad way but I think that Asian parents need to be more flexible. We need to mix and match everything in order to build and create a brilliant generation. Besides, Vivy Yusof is an asian and I love the way she teaches her kids. That is why I said that we to mix and match. 

Personality Test

Hi and Assalamualaikum! 

This is my second week of semester break and it is not that productive. fyi, I've MUET Speaking Test tomorrow and I haven't start to study yet. Right now I'm busy reading the book that Qistina gave me which is "the year I met you". It such an incredible book though! I started to love this book when it described about silent people. Silent people generally hold a magic and knowledge that less contained people lack; that their not saying something means more important thoughts are going on inside their heads. Accurate! 

Just now I've made a personality test because I'm a little bit ambiguous about my personality HAHAHA but now I can decide between introvert and extrovert, I am an ambivert. Ambivert is for those who are mix between introvert and extovert. In other words, they have both sides. However, the personality test that I've made didn't show the results which type I am between those three. But, it stated that I have ESFJ personality. Weird isn't? Basically, having this ESFJ personality means that I am an observant, I care a lot about feelings and sensitive, I tend to judge people (true weh! hahaha) 

I just can't believe they said that people with this personality are the cheerleaders but yah it is true. I think it is because I am the only daughter in family and I have no siblings to rely on, I've spent much time with my friends that's why I do care a lot of my social life and I don't find it difficult to create a new friend and adapt to the new environment. When people said that the only child in the family is clingy and non-independent omg that's burning my heart. In my sight, the only child is the most independent people because they need to stand alone for the rest of their life but it depends on how their parents educate them too. 

Besides, based on this personality it shows that I am a well-organized person and enjoys having responsibilities. It a little bit funny but somehow living in university already give me sight that responsibilities could kill me. I am person who cannot stand with narrow-minded person but still able to handle it. I need to make sure that everything is going smoothly and I reallyyyyy hate conflicts and debate matters. Is it a concrete reason for me not to be a lawyer? I don't know but I rather have a public speaking than debating because I am type of person that hate arguments. 

Talking about lawyers..... I still confused what I wanted to be. is it a lawyer or a judge or maybe a journalist? It's okay by or by crook I need a law degree. 

Rejection

Assalamualaikum and Hi! Gosh, its already around two months since my last updated about Ambang Merdeka. Right now I'm still thinking about my post title. 

Semester 1 break just begun. I've finished my last paper on Monday which was on 10 October. I don't know why but I feel soooo lazy to everything after I've finished my exam. I feel like I'm taking such revenge because I worked hard since raya haji break hahaha. Controlling my lust for not fall over the kdramas, I even uninstalled Instagram and Twitter during study week because I know that was a real satan. Unfortunately, I opened Twitter trough browser but I still satisfied with myself. According to my calculation, I did study well and have a productive study week even though I've heard there were so many people woke up early in the morning and got a place in reading room and only leaved that room for eat and pray. That's so amazing! Me myself I cannot stand studying in a situation where there are a lot of people. I rather studying in my room which is more convenient but I have to ensure that I'm not going to find my bed whenever I feel sleepy. 

I have severe dark circles because I slept at 4 for two days. Told ya, kdrama is socking me badly. One thing that I got from watching Uncontrollably Fond is, 

sometimes, people tend to reject because they cannot afford it 

Another analogy that I can give is when you go to a bookstore for book shopping and suddenly there is one book that caught your heart because you already fall in love with it when you read from the first page or maybe to make it such a fast move, you fall for that book when you read the back cover. But yes, it is undeniable when good English book is expensive except during sales. Thus, you reject to buy it. It is not because you don't like it, or you not love it, it's all about yourself. You cannot afford it. But someday, when you have money you probably come to the book store and looking for that book again because you still in love with it. 

I think this analogy can be applicable in relationship (hahahaha why i talk about love lel) 

Someone told me that, a good man is not going to approach a woman until he thinks that he will afford to have that woman. You know that it is hard to make a living in this 21st Century, we need money we need property to create a comfortable living (Maqasid Syariah Daruriyyah)(HAHAHAHA IM PRETTY MAD BECAUSE THAT TOPIC WAS NOT CAME OUT DURING EXAM IN SUBJECTIVE PART). I'm not a materialistic but even kids know how hard life is when you don't have money.  A serious guy will work hard to make means for living. So we girls, do not fall in love easily especially during our foundation time. It just the beginning of our adult stage No, I'm not going to prohibit or critic anyone who is in a relationship but if your partner is not mature enough especially the clingy one, you better break up but if they are the one who always support you no matter how small you look at yourself at certain stages, you need people like them. We need a partner like that. Know that love is power. You will do everything for the one that you love. 

Phewww feel matured enough for having this post