Monday, October 17, 2016

Good Parents

Again today I'm pretty excited to write about a new post. Just now I watched The Great Australian Spelling Bee 2015 at 702. I don't know whether I am too emotional or I just already grown up as a woman. Yah it sounds ridiculous but it happened to me when I watched this TV series. This series is much similar like News Straits Times Spell It Right or we used called it as SIR. I had accompanied my teacher when I was in primary school to bring the other students for that competition. It was intense I swear. 

You know that kids need support in whatever they do even it seems so small to you like learning on how to eat by using spoon and fork. Being a winner is not necessary for one to collect and get a new experience in life. As what I've been observed in Malaysia is most of parents wanted their kids to meet their expectations. "you need to get straight A's", "you need to catch the gold" or whatever phrase that much similar like these. I'd prefer to say "you can do it", "do your best", "believe in yourself" instead of giving those scary words to them. Of course we need those words that probably boost our spirit to win but we need it in perfect amount. An exorbitant of it might kill someone in meeting your expectations. Imagine yourself as a parent, and remember ourselves during our childhood. When you failed something then your parents said "you should be in the first place" instead of saying "I am proud of you. You can do it better if you work a little bit harder". We wondering why our parents don't even try to comfort and understand us. Therefore, if you think your parents won't able to understand you during your time, then treat your kids the better way your parents did. 

During this TV series, the parents keep on saying that they were very proud of their children even though they were failed in the first round. And when the the words were getting harder and the kid were failed, the parent even said "that word was hard right?" while hugging them and said "It's okay, you already a winner". Perhaps, Asian parents will be more like this. Oh Plisssss I hope that I would be a good parent. 

Being a parent is a challenging task especially in this modern and competitive world. It is a must for every parent to want the best for their children. We wanted they to excel in their academic, get the first place in sports or in other words we want them to be the best in whatever they do regardless in academic, sports, manners and Islamic things. But we need remember that an artist might don't really need Additional Mathematics and a businessman don't really need language to survive. We all need basic academic in our life but to extend it, only those who able will survive and excel. 

I do agree with the other country educational system where the kids will have an opportunity to explore everything they wanted to until certain grades and then they will be given options to choose their interest whether it is maths, science, literature or arts. One can do well in the field that they'd love to and expert in it. It is necessary to have a passion in whatever you do because that passion will lead you no matter how many failures that you will face. However, we need skills and abilities to do that. Frankly talk that I am a person who have passion in science and discovering everything about the aerospace but I am not good in Physics and Maths. Maybe one day there will be an act like Aerospace Act 2020? HAHAHAHA. or is it exists already? 

I still remember the day when I took train to go to Kuala Lumpur to watch orchestra, when I were busy looking for the sit, there was one woman asking her son to move and sat beside her to give my friend and I sits. Her son's expression was similar to when your mom ask you to wake up early in the morning. I smiled and said thank you. Moreover, when we arrived KL Sentral and wanted to get off from the train, that woman told her son again to let us get out first and said to her son "ladies first". I considered all of these as a good manner that you should teach your kids. Especially to boys, we need to teach them how to be respect a girl and vice versa. 

I just love how some western people teach their children because they will let their children to explore and do something that will bring benefits. No, I am not saying Asian people teach their kids in a bad way but I think that Asian parents need to be more flexible. We need to mix and match everything in order to build and create a brilliant generation. Besides, Vivy Yusof is an asian and I love the way she teaches her kids. That is why I said that we to mix and match. 

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